“It’s hard to ask for help—so I’m thankful when help shows up.”

At 73, Pat has lived a full life marked by service, survival, and resilience. We met him recently at our College Park drive-thru food distribution in Oxnard, where he shared a bit of his story.

A divorced veteran living alone in a modest one-bedroom apartment in Port Hueneme, Pat carefully budgets every dollar of his $2,295 monthly Social Security check. After rent, Medigap insurance, and Medicare premiums, he’s left with just $141 to cover all other expenses—including food.

“I last ate in a restaurant—even fast food—in 2009,” he told us. “I’m not a criminal or a magician, so I’m glad I have some investment income. But even with that, Food Share has really helped offset grocery inflation.”

Despite his gratitude, Pat admits he struggles with the stigma of receiving help.

“I grew up on a farm, one of seven kids. Both of my parents worked civil service jobs, and they would’ve gone to bed hungry before accepting assistance. Back then, food was always around — but money wasn’t. I have mixed feelings about receiving help. But I’m grateful for the important work you’re doing—and that you’re here.”

We’re grateful for Pat – for his service, strength, and for reminding us that dignity and need can coexist—and that no one should have to go hungry.